following are possible items to include in a sexuality policy statement
that childcare providers could distribute to their families.
policies are recommended:
• We use the correct words for
body parts, such as "penis," "vulva," "vagina."
Please tell us what other terms you
use at home so that we can
understand the child. We will not correct children for using other words,
but we will
teach them the correct word.
• If children ask questions
about sex, we will answer them. We will start by asking the child what
he or she
already knows. We will give
answers that fit the child's age. We will report to the parents if any
discussions take place.
• Please tell us if there are
any topics you do not want us to discuss with your child.
• We try to help children be
comfortable with their bodies. We will not say that any body part is bad
• We teach children that there
are some things they should not do with their bodies in front of other
Think about your setting. Choose the statement(s) below that are appropriate
for you, or write your own.
• Some activities will be planned
that teach about some parts of sexual development, such as differences
between boys and girls or the process
of birth. Parents will be notified before these activities take place.
parents do not want their children
to participate in these activities, an attempt will be made to provide
activities at that time.
• Books and toys are provided that
teach children about gender and sex.
• Boys and girls might share the bathroom,
but an adult will always be present.
Or, for a program that includes school-age children…
• Boys and girls under age five might
share the bathroom, but an adult will always be present. Beginning at
age five (or
six, or whatever), children will
be given privacy in the bathroom, and only one sex will use the bathroom
at a time.
• When children are no longer in diapers,
they will share the bathroom with children only of the same sex.